“Plan” an impromptu moment with your child. Look your son in the eye and smile. Take your daughter into an embrace. When he asks, “What?” don’t shrug it off and say, “Nothing.” When she whines, “Mommmm!” don’t just stroke her hair and walk away. Tell him you’re proud of him and explain why. Point out why her character or her deeds impress you. And then stop.
Do you sometimes doubt the authenticity of your accomplishments and attribute your success to good luck or timing? If so, you may be acting as your own worst bully, and you need to cut that out! I was guilty of beating myself up for many years, so I decided it was time for payback. The bully made her way into my life very early. She
My grandmother used to run after bullies on the playground. When she was a young mother, she would literally try to break up fights. That’s how much she hated conflict. I hate conflict, too, but not so much as to insert myself into the drama. I’ve found that’s counterproductive, as it usually fails to de-escalate anger, and hardly ever works to make the parties back
Let’s get something straight from the start: I’m an enabler. And a people pleaser. I live my life in such a way so that my satisfaction and comfort derives from ensuring others are content. That is certainly my problem, but not mine alone. While putting others happiness before my own does detract from my quality of life, it stunts the growth of my significant others
Before you can act based on the courage of your convictions, you have to tussle with uncertainty. Luckily, you can reduce uncertainty with research, questioning and careful observation. But even when you know you’ve done your due diligence, it’s difficult to get to a place of 100% confidence when the choice you must make involves your child. For six months I’ve known that my son
The transition to middle school is daunting even for neuro-typical kids. During the past year – my son’s last in elementary school – I’ve been worried how that transition will go for my once behaviorally challenged child who will enter a completely different environment with a learning disability and an anxiety disorder in tow. I have always known my son was not like other kids his