What does it mean to have a not so fancy life and why would you want one?
Is it a bad thing to live fancily? Of course not, if you can swing it. But if you’re struggling to meet unrealistic expectations and damaging your self-esteem in the process, that’s not very healthy.
We are all faced with the pressure to build the perfect existence. Whether our ideals are based on what we’ve learned from our parents, what we see in the media, or how we compare ourselves to friends and acquaintances, we often think we are falling short of “the dream.”
I’m here to tell you that I used to be a victim of that mentality, and there are still days when I glance at other women in my community and yearn for what I think they have.
My quest for perfection has held me back. Many times. I’ve often stopped short of taking action because I was afraid to fail.
And suddenly I was forced to move forward whether I wanted to or not: my then-husband asked for a divorce and I had to figure out how I was going to re-imagine “the dream” to work for myself and my two children. I had to sell the expensive house, find work after a long hiatus, and adjust to the idea of being a single parent.
Maybe your story is similar to mine. Or perhaps you’ve simply decided that it’s time to reexamine your own goals. Are you afraid you’ll make a mistake? Is your inner monolog telling you not to waste your time because you don’t have the skills or the experience?
Take a breath (or two) and a step back. It’s common to panic when contemplating big changes.
I want to share my experiences with you and tell you that it’s going to be okay. I want to cheer you on and give you support when you need it. I want to make you laugh and give you a chance to vent and rant.
I want to make a good life for myself and my family, and I know you do, too.
My hope is that this little blog will help you to feel connected, and to know you’re not alone. I’ll share my stories, ideas, tips, and tricks, and I encourage you to share your own.
Thanks for stopping by.